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The Tear-full weapon

February 21, 2009

Why women cry..?

I don’t want to generalize but I have seen, heard & read about women who get things going their way by using the most fearful weapon which no one can ignore… men may be very strong but even their hearts get wet with these bucket loads of water usually seen along with a speech saying ‘no one cares about me, I spend the day alone all day doing the chores to please you and what do I get in return.. Blah blah blah….’

No offence intended. I do agree that women need to be treated better in many homes. They deserve their share of respect & goodness. But how do you justify using this method to prove yourself better than other household members. Especially other women in the house. The one who cries becomes the ‘Victim’ and hence the other person becomes the ‘Cruel heartless Monster’. And men who are blind & deaf to reality are chosen (by default) as the judge.

May peace & justice prevail…

14 Comments leave one →
  1. February 21, 2009 8:46 am

    Are you the ‘Victim’ or the ‘Cruel heartless Monster’? 😀

    Yeah, I agree, there are women who use tear as weapon, but then, there are always two kinds of women: the ones who use tear as a weapon and the ones who do not. And it is always difficult for men to pick! 🙂

  2. February 21, 2009 10:21 am

    Actually crying is a way of venting out for women, not even a sign of weakness, but some women use it as weapon…what can I say for them

    • February 21, 2009 1:44 pm

      Chiranjib – what do you think..? 😉
      maybe.. but with experience they should know better.

      Poonam – crying is no weekness but men see it like that only. and they feel it as their responsibility to sympathise and help the poor woman.

  3. February 21, 2009 1:52 pm

    yes,somewomen do and some women dont…actually most women can cry…some just choose to use it a s a weapon or rather emotional blackmail..
    .but yeah cant be a generalization as you said…

  4. February 21, 2009 3:11 pm

    I often cry/weep/blubber! Someday I will ask this question Why ‘we men’ cry (and I have truckload of answers).

    I don’t think women use it as a weapon. Sometimes weeping is very desirable. I will refrain from generalizing.

    BTW, a female nose smeared in tears looks so cute!:D

  5. February 21, 2009 5:13 pm

    This is what I meant in that recent love-hate post of mine. Women use it for self pity and for grabbing attention!!! I have been a victim several times, and have finally decided to rectify it. now if any woman says, “No one loves me, You dont have time”,Iam sure to say, ” Thats your fate. Live with it!” (Atleast I wish I could say 😀 )

  6. February 21, 2009 6:12 pm

    I would hate to become a victim of such a weapon because I firmly believe that tears flow for a reason.

  7. February 22, 2009 5:29 am

    Indyeah – yes there is nothing wrong with crying. it is one of the best ways to get off that built up is also no way a sign of weakness as some think. it takes more courage to cry in front of others at the risk of being judged weak.

    but SOME women know it is the only way to get the sympathy and so that to make her feel better others will just agree to all her wishes.

    VIkas – why men cry only men may know..

    weeping for a real cause is ok. but women do use it as a weapon. you may have never been attacked with that yet.

    Vimal – oh.. attention grabber it is. and i think it works 99% of the times or maybe more…

    what i dislike is that you have to make others pity you to get things done your way. why not talk it out staight forward. why be ‘pavam’ or ‘poor old woman’..!

    Varun – you will dear some day.. and be ready for that.. it will hit when most unexpected.

    tears do flow for a reason. just that men can’t actually judge what the reason is..

  8. Apar permalink
    February 22, 2009 6:27 am

    Like everything, there are those who use it genuinely and those who do not. I have had people actually come up and tell me, make use of the laws which are to protect women like the dowry laws! I know of cases where women have misused those laws. Does it mean, every woman who uses them are wrong?

    So is the case for tears. It comes with the package I suppose. Hopefully not every tear is written off as manipulation or a sign of weakness!
    Unfortunately, when the woman does cry with reason, it goes un-noticed as it is put down to generalisation “Women cry for no reason, for attention seeking, they are weak so on and so forth…”

  9. February 22, 2009 7:10 am

    Apar – that is exactly the problem. the more you use it the less genuine it seems.

    and due to these false pretences (at times) make others judge the women as being manipulative or just an attention seeker. women have created this image themselves.

    not every tear is for manipulation. that is true. there may be men who wished they could cry so lessen the pain, but due to social upbringing just can’t.

  10. February 27, 2009 8:08 pm

    Oh yes, tears are ideal for manipulation… especially in a saas-bahu contest! 🙂

    😉 surely a headcahe for the men.

  11. Hiwayman permalink
    March 24, 2009 4:45 am

    Got no use whatsoever for any man or woman who whines and cry’s all the time. And I SURE don’t trust any woman’s tears. I just got rid of a woman who cried all the time. And no it wasn’t because of me ladies.Always wanting me to feel sorry for her. ( 9 times out of 10 it was because she made ANOTHER bad choise and had to take responcibility for it). BOOOO WHOOOOO

    well what can i say.. find yourself one of those rare ones who cry only when there is some real need for it.
    Welcome here.. 🙂

  12. May 19, 2009 9:59 pm

    You’ve read ‘Atlas Shrugged’ by Ayn Rand? At a somewhat different level, your post is very much reminiscent of ideas contained in that book.


    really..? i haven’t read it yet.. but have heard a lot of it.. if you have any links to it, do send me.

  13. May 20, 2009 6:24 am

    See if this helps:

    oh great.. i’l try it out..

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